In some ways, life is all about expectations. You decide where you want to go, what you want to do, and what you want to be. You lay out what you expect and then you make decisions that lead you there. You may not always reach your goals, but what you focus on, what you dream about, determines what you will be. You are your expectations.
If you think you can recover, you will be able to. If you think addiction recovery is impossible, chances are that it will be impossible for you. What you decide has a huge effect on what you do. So please, for the sake of yourself, your family, your friends, and future you, decide that recovery is possible. Set high expectations. Even if you fall just a little short and don’t reach your goals, if your goals were high enough, you’ll find yourself in a pretty good place in the end.
For example, if you decide that you are going to get sober, get a full-time job, and buy a house, you are going to have a lot of work ahead of you. In the end, you may end up sober with a rental and a part-time job, but that is still a heck of a lot better than being stuck in the cycle of addiction. You will still have exceeded something great, and it doesn’t mean that you are never going to get a full-time job and a house of your own. It just means you have to keep on working.
This idea of expectations is also true for your happiness and your attitude. It’s all up to what you expect, and what you do as a result of those expectations. Decide to be happy. Reach your own expectations.
As important as expectations are, do not let the expectations of others define you. Some people may think lowly of you, or others may push you to the breaking point. Decide on your own what you want to be. Of course, you should take advice and talked to loved ones, but you should define yourself. Someone else’s expectations should never determine who you are going to be.
If you set high, soaring expectations, you never know exactly where you will end up, but you can bet that it will be something you can be proud of. If you or a loved one is struggling with addiction, set high expectations. Work to be better. If help is needed, come to Annie’s House where we can help reach those expectations.